Beyond What We See
Understanding and Supporting Foster Parents
Being a foster parent is no small task. Some are called on short notice to care for children removed from traumatic situations. Others are asked to provide stability through the lengthy process of adoption. Some commit to caring for a child until adulthood. When you peel back the emotional layers, the weight of these responsibilities becomes much heavier than it may first appear.
Over the past two weeks, The Fostering Network has been highlighting the invaluable role foster parents play. Among the many issues raised, one stands out: the critical need for support during times that are more challenging than most of us can truly imagine.
It’s easy to underestimate experiences we haven’t lived. As therapists, we regularly witness the deep emotional challenges foster parents face—especially as therapy begins to uncover layers of pain, stress, and heartache. One foster parent recently shared how their honest account of daily life often sounds "unbelievable" to those outside their world.
Caring for children who have endured trauma is profoundly intense. That’s why it’s essential we surround these families with understanding and support. In therapy, one of the most powerful elements is making sure the parent feels heard and supported. Foster parents are not just caregivers—they are the most crucial part of a child’s healing journey.
Dr. Bruce Perry reminds us that while trauma often originates in relationships, healing does too. Supportive, stable relationships—especially with caregivers—are vital for recovery. Protecting and empowering these relationships should be a priority.
Foster parents do an extraordinary job. So why not visit The Fostering Network’s website to learn how you can help? Or, next time you meet a foster carer, offer a kind word or simply take time to listen. It may mean more than you know.
Healing for the broken hearted