Language

Language: Understanding the Challenges of Communication 

The Complexity of Not Understanding 

When we don’t understand something, a number of responses may follow. These can include panic, confusion, a search for clues, withdrawal, or an attempt to ask for clarification. These reactions are often seen when we are in unfamiliar situations, such as traveling abroad. In such scenarios, some of us may eagerly try to learn the language of the country we are visiting, while others might feel overwhelmed or frustrated by the challenge of not being able to understand or communicate effectively. Some may even resort to speaking louder, while others might rely on gestures to convey their message. Regardless of the approach, the challenge of understanding a different language can sometimes feel insurmountable. 

The Tower of Babel: A Biblical Illustration 

The biblical story of the Tower of Babel serves as a metaphor for the importance of communication. In the story, workers were constructing a tower so tall it would reach heaven, showcasing their greatness and ambition. However, God saw their pride and, to prevent their downfall, caused their languages to become confused. As a result, the workers could no longer understand each other and the tower’s construction came to a halt. The message is clear: without effective communication and unity, progress is impossible. 

The Language of Trauma 

Understanding language goes beyond just words; it extends to the ways in which messages are communicated through behaviour. When we think about trauma behaviours often convey messages that are difficult to interpret. These behaviours might be a form of communication that speaks to their deeper emotional state, often tied to their traumatic experiences. 

Take PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) as an example. A person who has fought in a war might experience a flashback when they hear a car backfire. Although they may be physically in a safe environment, their mind takes them back to a traumatic moment, and their body reacts accordingly. They might duck, run, or prepare to fight, behaviours that may seem odd or alarming to an outsider. However, if we understand the "trauma language" being expressed, we can see that these actions are tied to a survival mechanism, not an irrational response. 

Understanding this trauma language is crucial. Over time, with the right support, individuals can learn to navigate and respond to triggers in a way that is less disruptive to their sense of safety. But without understanding, these individuals may feel isolated and misunderstood. 

The Importance of Understanding Trauma in Children 

When working with children who have experienced trauma, it is essential to understand their specific trauma language. This language is not always verbal; it is expressed through their behaviours, actions, and emotional responses. And it’s not just the child who needs to be understood—everyone involved in the child’s life must be attuned to this trauma language. Teachers, caregivers, and peers all play a role in providing a sense of safety. 

The more individuals in the child's life who understand their trauma language, the safer the child will feel. This, in turn, decreases the likelihood that the child will resort to survival behaviours. When everyone is "singing off the same song sheet," unity is restored. This unity allows for growth, both for the child and the community around them. 

Unity and Growth 

The story of the Tower of Babel illustrates the importance of unity for progress. Without communication and understanding, no meaningful growth can occur. In the context of trauma, unity is equally essential. We want individuals who have experienced trauma to grow in their understanding of safety, without constantly feeling the need to be on high alert. Achieving this requires a collective effort—ensuring that everyone involved understands the trauma language and works together to create a safe, supportive environment. 

Unity and communication are essential for growth

Popeth’s Approach: Keeping the Child at the Center 

At Popeth, one of our key values is to keep the child at the center of everything we do. To effectively support children who have experienced trauma, we must first understand their trauma language. This process takes time, as it requires getting to know the child’s history, joining the dots, and helping the child express and understand their own trauma language. 

Equally important is our commitment to working with the entire community—the "village"—that surrounds the child. By ensuring that everyone involved understands the trauma language and works together, we can create a unified approach to healing and growth. This unity fosters a safer environment for the child and provides them with the support they need to thrive. 

Conclusion: The Power of Understanding 

Language, in its many forms, is the key to understanding others. Whether it’s learning a new spoken language, interpreting behavioural cues, or understanding trauma, communication is essential. By taking the time to understand the trauma language of those around us, we not only foster connection and empathy, but we also create an environment in which growth is possible. For children who have experienced trauma, understanding and unity are the foundations upon which they can build a sense of safety, belonging, and ultimately, healing. 

We’d love to hear of your experiences of communication and how you have overcome any barriers...please do share.